Sometimes it’s the small moments
that open our hearts and connect us as humans. Yesterday I went to Lynnwood to
get a haircut. I walked into a hair salon for the first time. I don’t have a
lot of hair anymore, so cutting it is not that difficult. The shop had four
chairs, all empty and no one seemed to be in the place. She must have heard the
door open and close, for out of the back walked a tall Asian woman who asked if
she could help me. I told her I needed a haircut and she directed me to one of
the chairs. She was all business, efficiently putting the tissue around my neck
and covering me with the cloth before proceeding to cut my hair.
She had
a light, gentle touch. After shaving the back of my neck, she brushed her hand
across it several times, like a cabinet maker brushing the sawdust off recently
sanded wood. I stole glances at her in the mirror as she worked. Probably in
her fifties, I could tell she once had been beautiful, but her dress and makeup
revealed a desperate battle with age. Around
her neck was a silver necklace with large green stones and on her wrist a
matching bracelet. Her hair was jet black and long, pulled up on top of her
head with a bit trailing down her back.
Her dress was cinched at the midriff accentuating her still slim body, and
her breasts jutted out, riding a little too high for her age. We didn’t talk as
she cut my hair.
At the cash register I asked her if
she was Vietnamese even though she was too tall and something was strange about
her face. Her nose reminded me of Michael Jackson’s, too thin for an Asian. I
assume she had work done. But her accent gave her away. She answered, “Yes, I
am Vietnamese.” I told her I had been in her country once a long time ago. Her
eyes lit up and she asked, “When?” I said it was in the sixties during the war.
Her face softened and sadness entered her eyes. I could tell she had been there
too at that time.
In that moment, I remembered the
beautiful young Vietnamese girls on their way to school dressed in immaculate silk
Ao Dais, black pajama pants and stark white tops with slits up the sides. They
passed right in front of me in single file, walking softly in sandals across
the dirt road. Their clean straight black hair bounced lightly on their
backs. I was a twenty year old soldier,
in Quang Ngai city for the day. They looked so young and innocent in the midst
of the brutal, dirty war. I said a prayer for them to a God I wasn’t sure I
believed in, asking that he protect them from the cruelty and destruction all
around.
I said
to the woman who had just cut my hair, “You come from a beautiful country.” She
said, “Thank you” and our eyes briefly met sharing an understanding that could
not be put into words. Two survivors
from a terrible time long ago. I'm thankful she survived, and she gave me a really good haircut.